Busy busy busy

So I have very busy lately, I am trying to get a set schedule because mornings are crazy at my house.  Lucky I have a relax job so it not a big deal if I am late.  I going to be starting school next week so I want a set schedule for the morning. This morning was a practice on and we did great I was about to drop off my children at daycare around 7:20 am which is amazing. I got to work just before 8 am and going to get a must thing done at work so my work load will not be to stress during school time.  I have been so busy not stress out that I was stress out, on the outside I was fine but in the inside I was failing my blood pressure was up and my neck as stiff. So I need to be relax both inside and outside, if you not relax on the inside faking it on the outside do not help.  What a lesson I learned this week, well my oldest son is starting to be more of a helper and that is great.  He is like here mom or mom are you ok, it just surprise me how he is growing.  Now I am going to focus on his potty training again, we took a few months break because of changes and a new brother.  I think he is ready for it now and I think i am too by being patient with him.   I am not going to stop this round, he going to make it to the end.  I want him to be potty training before he is 2 and half  but no pressure.  My baby is starting to know his surround and his father is starting to get more interested in him too not just the older one.

Upcoming Consignment sale

Upcoming consignment sale to Oklahoma this fall.  This a great for parent to save money on items from clothing, toys and bedding for your children.  I have been once and I love it.  On the last few days of the sale you can get a discount on the leftover items. http://www.jbfsale.com/home.jsp 

Being Single

God is amazing

Before I spoke to my children father I pray about it because I did not want my emotions to get the best of me.  I just told him that I need extra help if he was able to that would be great and he is stepping up.  I just let God work on his heart and just relax reality God knows what is best of this situation.  I did not get what I want but something even better.  God is amazing and I learning day by day not to let the small things affect me because I will interrupt my blessing.  At a conference I went to they was talking about there being three different types of single moms.  One is the needy type which needs a man and tries to get marriage or find a boyfriend right from the other break.  The second one is the trap type, their mind is focus on the person who left or the situation, wanting to know why, how come, or if they are going to return.  The last one is the jealous type, they are focus on other people happiness, if they see a marriage couple or a father and son playing together, think why are I am not there.  I personally will like to add another one which I saw my mom in this group which is the bitter type, My mom did not want to be around a man,  she tear up all of my father picture, and she really feel that all man are useless or dogs.  I think I have been in all of these group at one point in my journey but I reality that I need to focus on my future with my son not on anything else, just put it in God's hand.  I try to be very honest and straight force with their father let them know what going in with them.  Getting his ok or a chance to state his opinion about all situation involving my sons, I mean our sons.

The up and down of single parenting

Today was a down, I was trying to clean up my house and both of my son keep me busy.  So I ask their father who was not working today, he said he was going to be in the area so he will call. I waited until about 5 pm and called, he reply that he phone was not with him.  Which is weird because he was suppose to call me not the other way around and if not he know I was going to be home.  By now the 2 year old he driving me up the wall,  instead of clean I am prevent my son from hurt himself,  his brother or just be still.  So their dad said so I will pick up the 2 years old and I am on my way so it was 8 pm so I called not answer.   Then I called at 9 pm, "Oh I was not able to make it", really do he reality that this is his sons not his nephew or godchildren.  I am very upset because I do not ask a lot from him.  It have been over 2 weeks since he seen them and he lives only 20 minutes away.  I have to go outside when they was crying for 5 minutes to breathe and pray for strength.  Any other day I would be able to deal with this but today just got the best of me.  I try very hard to be positive but I was very upset that their father was not helping me out.  I was not asking for too much just a few hours to get the house clean, not me going out or something.  I just do not understand man as if they forget that they are also responsiblity for their children even if they are with mother. 

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Single mom is a situation not a choice

Since I have been a single mom, I really that other judge you a lot. When you are single and have children, others question you all of the time like, they are God or something. They ask about the father and why are yall not together.  They ask you if you not interested in marriage like we just choice to be a single mom.  They want to knew if you living on the government, but other fail to reality single and married are living with government assistance.  Also, if I am or I am are not ,the taxes out of your check is not going to changes because it will go to another organization.  Nobody say in grade school that one day I want to be a single mom, it just happens.  Every single parent have their own story of how they got in this situation.  Be a single mom has it struggle but it will be a little light if other was not so judgement to us.  If they are not judge than they are sorry for you but reality that I am a parent just like you.  When your son learning to walk, mine is also learning to walk.  Just because my sons are being raise by a single mom do not means that they are going to end up in jail or dropping out of school.  Stop labeling own children as child at risk because they are not.  Just because a child in a single parent home do not means that they are in an unhappy or unsafe environment, sometime they are more happy and safe then a two parent home.  I do not depend on how much parent are raising you, but on how they raising and how they love you.  I think if we stop separated they single mom and children, we will have a better outcome.   I am a single mom because I believe I was in love and we have two children, the other person did not want to be together anymore so I am now a single parent.  I is not easy being a single mom but if you have the well power you can do it.  If I do or if I do not get married, my main focus is my children to raise them to be companion and overcome the statistics.